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Contrary to the bumper sticker, he who dies with the most toys still dies. So, it's best to have a written plan (living will, will, etc) on who gets your toys. Make your wishes known in writing and verbally as to who gets your diamond ring, your RV, Fluffy, and everything else you've acquired. Not only can you relax knowing it's all taken care of, there won't be any family arguments over your heirloom china.
When your loved one is going through chemo, sometimes they're not all there. In our family, we call this chemo fog. What it means is the person is trapped in a dense mental fog induced by the chemo. What does this mean to you? Don't expect them to follow a conversation, don't expect them to remember what you just said, don't expect too much. Realize that they're sitting there, looking attentive, but probably couldn't tell you their own name. Also, don't take what they say to heart. Weird sayings, things that they never would say, pop out of their mouth and they don't realize it. Laugh it off, and forget it; after all, it's only the chemo talking.